|Real Geek Girls or Not? Image: Nicole Wakelin|
It happens every few months, usually because someone has written an article about geeks, or labeled themselves as a geek. There is intense Internet debate, usually a good bit of it leaning toward the nasty, as "real" geeks try to explain why the term was unfairly used, why it was undeserved, why it should be given back to those who own it. As if anyone can own a word. You can buy a vowel on Wheel of Fortune, but that's a game show. You can't own a word in the real world.
I have been calling myself a geek and a nerd for years. Yeah, comparing those two terms alone is probably a doctoral thesis in the making, but that's not the point. I think I'm a geek. I think I'm a nerd. Not everyone I meet might agree with me. I don't wear lots of geeky shirts. I don't like argyle socks. I love games but am a terrible gamer. I don't like Lord of the Rings. I am still a geek.
I think that some of the problem comes from what has defined the word geek for so many years. Not the guy biting the head off of a chicken in a circus freak show, but the way those of a certain age had the label applied to them in a none too complimentary way when they were younger. It still happens now. There are times when being called a geek or labeling yourself as one is just fine, and maybe even, dare I say it, cool. But there are still times when it's used to call someone out as different and not fitting in with the crowd.
But the cool factor, the acceptability, the marketability of the word is still new. The guys who tinkered around with computers in the 80's, who were aces at Tempest in the arcades and had scientific calculators in their back pockets lived through a time when geek was an insult and never, ever a compliment. This goes for women, too. It was not cool to hang out at the comic store, recite lines from Star Wars or read Tolkien. You were a geek, and by definition you were an outcast.
Clearly, the word has changed over the years. It's come to mean many things to many people. It is still at times used as an insult, but just as often it's used as a point of pride. Calling yourself a geek shows that you are proud of who you are and your passions. It shows you are part of a group that generally, is accepting of others because most geeks have at some time felt like an outcast. But, hasn't everyone felt like an outcast at some time? Hasn't everyone, from the football fanatic to the comic book collector wished that people understood them better? Yes, I'm going to have to say yes.
So, when someone you don't think deserves the label geek uses it, just leave it alone. Articles like this one in Forbes calling out fake geek girls are just ridiculous. Sure, geek is having it's heyday right now and people will use the word however they choose. Sometimes because they genuinely identify with it, and sometimes because they think it may garner them positive attention. Truly, it doesn't matter. The meaning of the word will continue to change as how we identify ourselves changes. Geek is just a word. It's what you are that actually matters.